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Dear countess.

I have noticed a lot of large people in the scene. I mean, I go into a dungeon, and there are ENORMOUS people in there. Huge mounds of quivering naked flesh. It's like being in a Fellini film! Is there something about the scene that attracts fat people?

Mondo

New York

Mondo, I think it's not so much a matter of the scene attracting large people, but rather, not rejecting them.  Since most BDSM is about the person and their reactions, there is a lot less "image consciousness" in the scene, than in the world at large.

A sub who writhes enticingly, and who responds encouragingly to her top is going to be "beautiful" to him.  A "10" who just hangs there will only bore him.

There are still prejudices, though, and, since you brought it up, I will get up on one of my favorite soapboxes now:

About "fat people"

Fatness is not a moral problem.  Sometimes is isn’t even a problem at all. It can be a symptom of emotional difficulties, or physical illness. It is most likely to be a person’s natural, healthy state. There is no way to tell just by looking at someone which it is!

Myths, and the truth.

"Fat people don't exercise". Some don't, some do. Some can whoop your butt.  Fat accumulates when more calories are taken in than are used. This can happen at any level of exercise.

"Fat people are slobs who stuff their faces".

Not usually. Fat usually accumulates slowly.  Once someone is medically obese, a surprisingly small number of calories will maintain the fat level. There are as many skinny slobs as fat ones.

"Fat people have no self control". Compared to who? Maybe someone has trouble with being addicted to carbohydrates.  Is that any different from over indulging in tobacco, alcohol, DVD collections, Strip clubs, or any of the many other things we all have our weaknesses for? Just because their area of indulgence has a visible after effect does not mean overweight people have no self-discipline at all.  You stop shopping for shoes when you are stressed, and I will stop having hot fudge sundaes.

"Fat people can't have dessert" No.  Sometimes skipping dinner and just having dessert is better. Never give dietary advice to a fat person without being asked. Trust me, they know more about nutrition than you do.  They have studied it closely.

There are some people with a kink for fat. There are some who cater to that kink.  So, there are large people who do NOT want to lose weight. Just assuming they are "on a diet" is a good way to get yourself hurt, in an unfun way.

“Fatness causes heart attacks” Also not supported by medical statistics. What does contribute to heart attacks is heart and lung capacity inadequate to support the mass of the body.  This can happen at any weight, and any percentage of body fat.  Couch potatoes, who don’t get exercise, are prone to illness because of their inactivity, not their fat.  Regular cardio workouts can keep the body healthy at any size.

Okay, I have that out of my system now.  Thank you for listening.